If (like most of us) you've been hurt in a past relationship, you may find yourself wanting to take things slowly so you don't end up in another "lousy relationship." To do this, you need to be really clear about what you want (and don't want) in a relationship by establishing boundaries in the dating stage of your relationship.
We all have rights. It's your right to express yourself, who you are, what you want, and don't want. There is no more important time to establish your rights than during the dating stage of a relationship.
Boundaries can't just be a theoretical concept. You have to put your boundaries into practice. For example, you may not feel that it's okay for married people to have affairs but you're dating and sleeping with a married person. What you want, and what you do need to match up and be congruent.
Know your boundaries before you start dating. Boundaries in dating will help to take away those awkward moments when you're on a date. You will be able to relax more and enjoy the process; you get to know the person you're with and whether or not you want to see the person again.
Here are a few "rights" to kick-start you when you think about putting your "boundaries in dating" list together. Knowing your rights also helps you when you're wavering, for example, saying "no" to that kiss you really don't want!
I have the right to:
Things to Consider
If your dating partner is not able to honor your rights and boundaries, would you want to be in a relationship, or go on another date, with that person again, let alone consider them to become a marriage partner?
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What boundaries do you put in place when you go on a date?
What to you value? What is important to you in a partner and relationship?
Here are a few suggestions of boundaries in dating that can support you to start your own list.
The above are only suggestions and ideas when setting boundaries in a new relationship or dating relationship. They are prompts for you to start formulating your own list of boundaries and rights.
I am not suggesting you can't kiss a person until the third date, etc. What you do is up to you, which will be based on your values and beliefs. When you decide something is a boundary for you, it's about being firm around what is, and what is not acceptable for, you!
When you know your rights and boundaries in dating (and your date knows and respects them), you are more likely to develop a fulfilling and loving relationship.
If you want support to establish your rights and boundaries in dating, or you want support with the dating process, or you want to discover what's stopping you from having the relationship you want, hit the "Let's Connect" button below.
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Until next time
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