THE KEY TO A SUCCESSFUL AND LOVING RELATIONSHIP
When you know of your patterns, you can make choices; to end or continue the competition for power in your relationship. You can have a healthy relationship!
What's your love story? Do you want to change it?
Below are the most important articles for couples I've published to help you find the right tools and develop awareness so you can be the "perfect couple."
When you first start dating, you may have thought you were the perfect couple...however, when the "honeymoon" period is over and the chemistry in your relationship has subsided, daily living can become mundane and boring. Your relationship can take a "backseat" and you may feel that you're constantly working, parenting (if you care for children), and doing chores. It's at this point relationships face difficulties and many marriages and partnerships end in separation.
Don't be another statistic. Prioritize your relationship and create the emotional intimacy, and connection you desire and deserve, so you can have a happy relationship and be the "perfect couple." Many couples struggle to find time to connect. Some couples say they find relationships hard work and end up prioritizing time on social media rather than committing to a "date night" with their partner or playing games together. Do not devalue the importance of time spent together; it brings you closer together. To keep that spark alive, yes, you have to work at your relationship so you enjoy time together.
If you want to get the connection, love, and intimacy back into your relationship (and maintain it), continue reading.
If you're tired of the same results, it's time to try something new.
I can support you to identify unhelpful beliefs and stories at play in your relationship so you can take off your masks, stop playing out old patterns, and relate from your true selves. You can have a fulfilling relationship and be a happy couple.
In relationships, we play out unconscious patterns we developed early in life. We tell ourselves stories about ourselves and others, and as a result, our relationships lack depth and honesty, and they can't go the distance.
Some couples seem able to just work out their differences, but how?
We all have patterns of behavior that we adopt and move into, particularly when we are in a relationship, and I'm no different.
When we feel powerless and disconnected, we move into these patterns (because it's a habit and familiar) to compete with our partner to gain power. We all do it, but some more than others. And sometimes, we will use our patterns more than others, depending on how we feel.
The more disconnected, fearful, and powerless you feel in yourself and your relationship, the more you use your power pattern!
Know that the patterns you use to compete for power with your partner were created when you were a child and probably haven't evolved since then. What worked for you as a five-year-old to gain power and ensure your survival is still operating and being used by you in your adult and intimate relationship (yes, your partner is using their patterns too).
I've discovered that when people get past their negative view of the word "archetype" as being a theoretical construct (wishy-washy/new-age/hippie), and realize that it is a robust way to structure, frame, and name patterns being played out in their intimate relationship, they very quickly have a "light-bulb" moment and see the patterns at play.
Archetypes is a robust way to frame, structure, and name patterns at play in your relationship.
Couples quickly grasp the issues, patterns, and why they experience conflict and compete for power in their relationship. They are then able to change their patterns and their relationship! They start to change their story and move towards being the perfect couple!
You can only change what you know. Couples also feel relieved when they realize they're not alone in their patterns!
I developed a framework, Power Archetypes, to support couples to recognize their own patterns, why and how they compete for "power," and how to change them.
Within this framework, couples know they are normal. They realize they can make different choices and change the patterns.
If your relationship is struggling and you're not sure what to do about it, there is something you can do that will not only fix these patterns, it will also improve the quality of all your relationships—including the one with yourself: Learn the female and male power archetypes and how to work with them.
Stories Can Dictate Your Relationship.
Whether or not you realize it, there are stories that control your relationship and how you see your partner.
How do you see your partner? Do you see your partner as nagging? Sexy? Boring? Controlling? Aloof? Cold-hearted? Or kind and loving?
Your perception of your partner will influence the way you interact with them; it alters your relationship. For instance, if your partner asked you to help with the dishes, you will view their request differently if you see your partner as a "nag" compared to if you see them as "sexy."
Most of us have unconscious patterns, stories, myths, and programs that we believe about ourselves and others, and these beliefs shape our behavior and how we function in our relationships. To recognize and change these behaviors, you need to know how power archetypes are at work in your relationship.
You have a dominant power archetype, as does your partner. The dominant archetype determines how you react in times of need, and when you're overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, and afraid.
Why Learn Power Archetypes?
Rather than have an excuse for the difficulties you experience in your relationship, for example:
"My partner is controlling." Or,
"My partner doesn't understand me." Or,
"I don't feel loved in my relationship," etc,
...when you know and understand the power archetypes, it will support you to stop struggling and competing for power with your partner. Instead, you will gain power and have a healthier relationship—by making conscious choices!
When you understand and know your dominant power archetype, you can uncover the heart of the conflict in your relationship and move into a place of confidence, balance, and happiness.
You might notice that you want the stories you tell yourself about your partner and your relationship to be more positive. Mind Movies is a modern-day version of a "vision board" and a way to use affirmations to support you to have a more positive relationship with your partner. Why not use the power of the law of attraction and watch the Mind Movie below every day (even twice a day) for 30 days?
You can make your own personalized Mind Movie (for free) using tools online. Click here to find out how.
You can be the "perfect couple."
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Do you wonder why some people seem to have loving, fulfilling relationships and you don't?
Do you end up in the same relationships (with the same problems) over and over again? Do you tend to put aside your needs to make others happy?
Do you worry that you'll never "get it right"—that you'll never figure out how to make others see you for who you are and love you for it?
Discover your behavior patterns so you can release them and transform your relationships by checking out my book "Female Power Archetypes" on Amazon by clicking the link below!
Whether you realize it or not, there’s a story that governs your relationships. There are unconscious patterns, stories, and programs that shape your behavior in our relationships. To recognize and change these behaviors you need to know how power archetypes are at work in your relationships.
You have a dominant power archetype that determines how you react in times of need, and being overwhelmed, stressed, and afraid. By learning your dominant power archetype you can uncover the heart of the conflict in your relationships and move into a place of confidence, balance, and happiness.
Check out my book, Female Power Archetypes, on Amazon by clicking the button below to find out how power archetypes influence your relationship and why you experience conflict.
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I now feel empowered with confidence to face my fears, make some plans and move forward with my life! You have helped me to see the value in my relationship and improve my communication with my partner – our relationship couldn’t be better now and I can’t thank you enough.
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