"What Is Your Attachment Style?"

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This quiz is intended for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or for the treatment of any health condition.

Adapted from Fraley, Waller, and Brennan's (2000) ECR-R Questionnaire.

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Each power archetype also has an attachment style. The adult attachment style questionnaire can give you a snapshot report of your main attachment style. 

Do you have a healthy attachment? Your adult attachment will have a profound effect on your emotional development and relationship with your romantic partner. Securely attached people have healthy adult relationships.

Your adult relationship attachment style (which formed in childhood with your primary caregivers and more often than not, remain constant), helps to determine your relationship attachment style with your intimate partner and close relationships. 

There is a direct correlation between your adult relationship attachment style and the power archetypes.

Attachment styles:

Please note, this attachment style quiz does not assess if you have a disorganized attachment style.


Avoidant Personality: If you identify as male and your attachment style is "avoidant," you're more likely to have the "Tin Man" or "Sergeant Major" as your dominant power archetype. 

Anxious Personality: If you have an "anxious" attachment style, you're more likely to have the "Knight in Shining Armor," the "Clingy Guy," or the "Victim" as your dominant power archetype. These archetypes show codependency.


Avoidant Personality: If you identify as female and your attachment style is "avoidant," you're more likely going to have the "Ice Queen" or "Boss" as your dominant power archetype.

Anxious Personality: If you have an "anxious" attachment style, you're more likely to have the "Heroine," the "Needy Nag," or the "Damsel in Distress" as your dominant power archetype. These archetypes show codependency.

John Bowlby profile
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“The propensity to make strong emotional bonds to particular individuals [is] a basic component of human nature.”

Attachment Styles

Attachment styles are about the way you interact, connect, and relate to other people. Your attachment style has a huge impact on your relationships.

The more securely attached you are, the more likely you will experience fulfilling relationships. 

Psychologists, John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, collaboratively identified the importance of attachment between a child and their caregiver, which shapes a person's "entire life span." 

Phillip Shaver extended the work of John Bowlby. He took the attachment theory into adult romantic relationships. He theorized childhood attachment styles continue into intimate relationships as adults. Research after research confirmed Shaver's attachment theory in adulthood.

Knowing your style can help you understand how you relate to your partner and others. With this knowledge, you will understand why you have difficulties connecting with some people, or why you push others away. 

When you know your attachment style, you can improve the quality of your relationships!

Deepak Chopra profile
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“Love allows your beloved the freedom to be unlike you. Attachment asks for conformity to your needs and desires. Love imposes no demands. Attachment expresses an overwhelming demand: "Make me feel whole." Love expands beyond the limits of two people. Attachment tries to exclude everything but two people.”

The following is a "brief" summary of the different attachment styles:


A person who has a secure attachment style tend to be more satisfied in relationships because they feel "secure," connected, and able to live their own life without restrictions due to fear. Securely attached adults are supportive of their partner's progress, their individual needs outside of the relationship, and they don't see this as a threat to them or the relationship; yes, they feel secure.


Anxious attachment style is based on "fantasy" rather than reality. The person will expect their partner to "rescue" them and make them feel "whole." However, as the securely attached person knows, only you can make yourself feel whole—no person outside of yourself can do this. A person who is anxious and has fears of being left can become "clingy" and "needy." They demand more from their partner to help them feel more secure.

If you are in a relationship with this attachment style partner, an anxious person will be okay when their partner is meeting their needs to make them "feel" secure in the relationship.


A person who has a dismissive and avoidant attachment style will tend to emotionally distance themselves from their partner. They have the ability to emotionally withdraw and shut down in arguments or even go throughout life without a partner because they believe they don't want or need one; they're too independent. They have the ability to turn off their feelings and not react when their partner is distressed.

Anxious Avoidant:

This attachment style has mixed behavior and emotions. They see that others will meet their needs but if they get too close to another person, they will get hurt; codependency avoidant. A person with this attachment style will have a "rollercoaster" of emotions and their relationships are very dramatic with lots of highs and lows; an "on-again" and "off-again" style relationship. They struggle with getting too intimate and close because they fear being abandoned but cling when they fear rejection. They can attract abusive relationship partners.

If you are in a relationship with this attachment style partner: Don't get too close and give them space, but also be there for them when they need it. It can be a constant juggling act.

Discover your attachment style. Take the attachment style test to discover and learn about your attachment style today. 

Why not get your partner to take the quiz too and reveal their attachment style? You will gain a deeper understanding of the dynamics in your relationship! You will discover your compatibility with your partner, why you desire one another, and if you have an anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, or secure attachment (the three main attachment styles covered in the quiz—there are four attachment styles in total).

Take the free test at different stages of your relationship to get even more out of this tool. 

Please answer the following statements in the adult attachment questionnaire test as honestly as possible to get more accurate results. 

To get full results of your attachment style test, please enter your details at the end of the quiz. 

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